Start Smaller Than You Think
It is easy to bite off more than you can chew when it comes to New Years’ goals. When we do this, it leads to disappointment and can lower our self-esteem. Think of it this way, if a friend made a bunch of promises to you and he/she did not follow through with them, how would your relationship change with that friend? You would probably lose some trust in that person and feel like you can’t rely on them. The same is true when we make promises to ourselves that we don’t keep – we lose trust in ourselves and start believing we “can’t” or “won’t.”
Start off small with your goals – create “micro goals.” Micro goals are super easy to achieve, and the act of following through on a goal, as small and insignificant as it may seem, can help build your self-esteem. The follow-through is more important than the actual goal itself. This is the piece that builds self-esteem.
Once you have completed the microgoal, you can move onto the next microgoal, eventually achieving a substantial positive change without feeling the pressure and defeat a huge goal can bring upon you.
For example, if you want to work out every day and transform your body’s physique, start with setting a goal of something like doing 25 jumping jacks in the morning for 3 weeks. See how that goes. If it is easy to achieve, move on. If it was more of a challenge than you thought, take your journal out and explore why this was so hard to achieve. It is not likely because the jumping jacks themselves were “too hard”… Also, explore whether or not getting physically fit is truly a goal for you, and if so, why?