It is easy to feel defeated right now. Why shower? Why not eat 16 cookies? Exercise? – The gym isn’t open! Sure, for a couple of days, it may be what you need to grieve your losses. And yes, everyone has experienced a significant loss, and we should acknowledge that. But it is essential to, at some point, pick yourself up and say: “ok, what do I really need right now?”
Take out a piece of paper, journal, or open a document on your computer. Begin to write out what your *needs* are and *why*
- Sleeping 8 hours per night – to feel rested
- Talking to my sister each day – to feel connected to my family
- Laughter – to feel joy and “let go.”
- Walking my dog – to ensure I am taking care of my dog’s needs
- Eating – for fuel
- Exercise – to move my body and feel energized
- Comfort and assurance – I need to know what I am feeling is ok
When looking at your needs, ask yourself what is and isn’t being met right now. For your needs that are being met, great, keep doing what you are doing. For the needs that are not being met, but you feel you could be met, what is something you can do to change that? For example:
Exercise – to move my body and feel energized
If you are not currently exercising but could be what is holding you back? What are the perceived obstacles? – The gym is closed.
I can exercise at home. Boom, there is step one of your plan. Now detail a time, place, and all the details to make this happen. Obstacles may come up:
What are the real obstacles? – I don’t have weights at home?
Hmm, what is a solution to this? Bodyweight exercise? Looking on YouTube? The solutions are there – it’s time to get creative.
Next, what are the needs that are not being met, and you are not sure how to meet them? For example:
Comfort and assurance – I need to know what I am feeling is ok.
If you feel that you don’t know how to meet this need, it is time to reach out. Ask a friend, journal deeply about what you are scared about, what it would take for this need to be met, etc.
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